In this case, (educated white) mother knows best.
NAMs are more likely to attribute their children's outcomes to the specifics of their parental approaches than whites are. That's a recipe for perpetual frustration and heartache. Beyond making sure basic needs are met, a parent's two most important jobs are in choosing the other half of the genetic equation and ensuring the child gets in with a desirable peer group. (In fairness, for single-parent NAMs just getting these fundamentals nailed down is often a challenge. Coming up short is a real problem that may lead some to, understandably, attribute their children's shortcomings to their failures in this regard).